Guides to Avoid Sexual Compromise In a Relationship

Hey guys! Good to have you back on my blog 😊 . I have been stalling on this topic for a while now majorly because of all the controversy it comes with. As you all are aware, my blog is a faith based blog, so most of what I put out here is faith based, especially on topics regarding relationships. So all my points would be pointing you back to the Bible.

I’m well aware that they’re a lot of people out there who feel it’s natural to have sexual relations in a relationship, and I’m also aware that they’re also people out there who want to honor God in their relationships, people who are willing to delay instant gratification just because they love God and are willing to obey his word.

I’ve put together a few guides that could help you maintain your sexual purity in your relationship. What if you already compromised? No problem, this is for you too.

Make sure you’re both on the same page:

No other point is going to be relevant if your partner isn’t on the same page as you. You will be surprised the things you find out when you ask questions. Don’t assume anything in a relationship. It is not just enough if they’re christian, do they really love Jesus? Do they have a personal relationship with Him? Are they actively pursuing him daily? Do they think sexual activities are okay as long as you don’t do the main thing? Find out. Don’t get carried away by butterflies my sister /brotherπŸ˜‚. Please ask questions before you become exclusive, if you’re already in a relationship, its never too late.

Set boundaries and stick to it:

Setting the boundaries is the easy part, sticking to it is where the work is. It’s not easy at all πŸ˜‚, but we gotta do what we gotta do right? Sit down together and write down your rules and regulations with help the lying . Communication is key in this relationship business. Don’t hold anything back, there may be certain places he/she touches you innocently but there ain’t nothing innocent about the reaction in your body, you better talk oh (I said wrote that in a typical Nigerian mother voice ). I don’t even want to go into the kissing/not kissing debate, but all I’m going to say about is ‘kissing’ is probably going to take you deeper than you ever intended to go.

Some of these boundaries could include the following

  • Reduce the number of hours spent together alone :

It is very important to have your alone time, but make sure when you’re both alone you’re not really alone. Your meetings should be in a public place where you could still have privacy. There may situations where being alone is inevitable, don’t let your guard down, you’re tempted according to your desires.

  • Avoid unnecessary holding /fondling

There are some areas that are no go areas naturally. Some hugs can be very sexual, but if you must hug each other, keep it quick, side hugs are still the best πŸ˜‚, kidding but not really. You know yourself, the greatest deception is self deceit. Your partner should also communicate any sexual struggles they may be having. You don’t want to be that person fueling their sexual desires.

  • Guard your heart by guarding your conversations :

Avoid unnecessary lustful conversations that fuel your sexual desires. No, don’t talk about how it’s going to be on your wedding night lol. Don’t fall for it. If anyone is sending you nudes block them please, if it’s your partner then maybe you need to reevaluate that relationship.

  • Pray for your relationship :

Making the decision to keep your relationship pure is not an easy one, and you cannot do it on your own. Pray your relationship, pray for strength to overcome temptations when they come, because they will definitely come. It takes more than just guides to pull you through. By strength shall no man prevail. It’s more than just a physical thing it’s more about your heart. What are your dominant thoughts? So you see, we need to Holy Spirit to help us, ask him to help you. His help is ever available, that’s why He was sent by the Father.

If you feel like you already messed up, you can make a decision today to start afresh. It’s never too late with God.

Never make the mistake of believing you’re too spiritual to fall for sexual sin. Don’t fall for it. Even the Bible gave the most unlikely reply as regards sexual sin; FLEE!!!

Related Bible Texts :

Recommended Book: When God writes your love story by Eric and Leslie Ludy – One of the best books I’ve read this year.

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This will be all for now guys. I hope you all enjoyed reading this post 😊.

Fisayo 🌸

52 Comments Add yours

  1. Thanks for speaking the truth Fisayo. God continue to bless you.

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    1. Amen. Thank you πŸ’•

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  2. Fadekesays says:

    Hi Fisayo.

    Setting boundaries is so key and talking to your partner about it too. There’s no point saying β€œI don’t want to kiss” if your partner is looking at you like 😏

    So great to see young people who still want to do right by God with this sexual immorality thing. Lol the world has normalized fornication now.

    Thank you so much for this post. It is timely ❀️

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    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. You know. Thank you girl. You’re doing a great job as well πŸ’•

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  3. I enjoy reading this post and I’m thankful of it. I’ve not started dating yet, since I’m still sixteen but I do think about it. Because books and movies and peer groups makes sex in a relationship seems inevitable.
    I’ll definitely share this.
    Keep it up.

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    1. Awww
      Thank you for reading love, it’s never too early to know these things. Drop your email so you can receive giveaway πŸ’•

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      1. Check your email πŸ’•

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  4. The Chordinator says:

    Another awesome one by the amazing Fifi

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  5. Ekanem Eme says:

    Fifs❀, this is a great reminder. The strength part especially, thinking you’re too spiritual to wage the war (YES IT IS A WARπŸ˜‚) against sexually impurity on your own. The strength and wisdom of the Holy Spirit CANNOT be overemphasized. He said “In your weakness I am strong”, being aware of that strength and calling it forth when your weakness is about to eat you up completely is the way to reenergize and step into supernatural strength. Connect to it, it never fails. (I can talk shaπŸ˜‚)
    Thank you baby girl for being a torch to many including me. You know how i feel about you, I don’t have to say it ba?πŸ˜‚. God bless you Richly.

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    1. Haha. Oh yes! And I love that talk. Thank you for reading baby girl 😘. Love you right back πŸ’“πŸ’•

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  6. Melinda says:

    Great article; thank you!

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    1. Thank God. You’re welcome πŸ’•

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  7. dynaxty says:

    Awesome post! Keep doing what you do best.. More grace

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    1. Thank you and amen πŸ’“

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  8. Chuks says:

    Thanks for letting us share in this.
    Keep the flag flying fifss 😍.

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    1. Of course you can. Go ahead 😊

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  9. Bruce Sims says:

    Reblogged this on Call 2 Witness.

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  10. Hello Fisayo i am glad to find out you are also an advocate for sexual purity. May God bless you with a man who God loving and God fearing in Jesus name. Also in this world of corrupt minds one needs to pray for a good man because he is omnipotent and knows the mind of good and evil men. Thanks for this message .

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    1. Yes. You’re absolutely right. Amen to the prayers. I pray for the same for you. Don’t forget to participate in the giveaway. God bless you πŸ’•

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  11. Offiah Isaac C says:

    This is really an interesting read. Succinctly put dear. i look forward to your next post

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    1. Thank you Isaac 😁😁

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  12. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘Thank you

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    1. Thank God πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

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  13. joan says:

    I read your words and am filled. God bless you. God keep you strong in faith.. your lips will continually flow with God’s words and instructions.

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  14. Nkechinyere says:

    Thank you Fisayo. Thank you for sharing with us. God bless you. Some years back God had to teach me these and seeing them refreshes my memory.

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    1. Nkechinyere says:

      Fisayo, is the giveaway still on😸
      My email address is nkechifavor98@gmail.com Thank you very much Fisayo

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      1. Lol well it ended a while ago but I’ll still send it to you 😊

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      2. Nkechinyere says:

        Aww
        Thank you Fisayo☺

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      3. You’re welcome dear

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    2. Amazing! Sometimes we all need that reminder ❀

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  15. Prayz says:

    God bless you, Fisayo. I find these guides helpful.
    In a century where it is mostly believed that no relationship can thrive without some ‘lovey-dovey’, i feel great to know there are advocates for sexual purity. Keep on the good job.

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    1. Thank you! May God help us all. Thanks for reading

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  16. Cute puppy says:

    Amazing… There are so many couples out there who misuse what they have all in the name of love and affection.. They see all those humpty-dumpty things as proof for a well growing relationship. Nice work tho.. Kudos

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    1. Thank you for stopping by 😊

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  17. I am really glad after reading your post. My principle is same like your post, I am also careful about sexual purity, Sex shouldnt be the base of any relationship. Marriage should be the goal for a relationship. If both partners respect each others, they can wait until they get married

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  18. Hildah Imali says:

    πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ , I’ve lost three relationship because just on the second week into the relationship someone was already talking about how…blah blah blah. …and few girlfriends tell me …I’ll not get a man with me keeping these standards…well, if they can’t keep with my standards..I’ll can’t keep up with a mediocre kind of relationship .

    imalihilda0@gmail.com

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    1. yess girl! God will honor you by giving you a man that will fight with you. You are doing well boo. Thanks for stopping by. Missed you btw x

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      1. Hildah Imali says:

        A lot more here.

        Amen

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  19. Wow thank you for sharing this dear. It helps to know they are a lot of young people still seeking sexual purity in honour to God. It is worthy of note, not to only view sexual purity as a journey with a marital target, but as being tantamount to daily worship to God, Romans 12:1. I feel the guidelines you dropped are in easy-to-use version which I will apply now. Nice piece!

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    1. Thanks alot! I’m glad you found it helpful πŸ€—

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  20. Just reading this now and its GOLD!!! Thank you.

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    1. Yay! Thank you πŸ™πŸ½

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