Hey guys! Good to have you back on my blog 😊 . I have been stalling on this topic for a while now majorly because of all the controversy it comes with. As you all are aware, my blog is a faith based blog, so most of what I put out here is faith based, especially on topics regarding relationships. So all my points would be pointing you back to the Bible.
I’m well aware that they’re a lot of people out there who feel it’s natural to have sexual relations in a relationship, and I’m also aware that they’re also people out there who want to honor God in their relationships, people who are willing to delay instant gratification just because they love God and are willing to obey his word.
I’ve put together a few guides that could help you maintain your sexual purity in your relationship. What if you already compromised? No problem, this is for you too.
Make sure you’re both on the same page:
No other point is going to be relevant if your partner isn’t on the same page as you. You will be surprised the things you find out when you ask questions. Don’t assume anything in a relationship. It is not just enough if they’re christian, do they really love Jesus? Do they have a personal relationship with Him? Are they actively pursuing him daily? Do they think sexual activities are okay as long as you don’t do the main thing? Find out. Don’t get carried away by butterflies my sister /brother😂. Please ask questions before you become exclusive, if you’re already in a relationship, its never too late.
Set boundaries and stick to it:
Setting the boundaries is the easy part, sticking to it is where the work is. It’s not easy at all 😂, but we gotta do what we gotta do right? Sit down together and write down your rules and regulations with help the lying . Communication is key in this relationship business. Don’t hold anything back, there may be certain places he/she touches you innocently but there ain’t nothing innocent about the reaction in your body, you better talk oh (I
said wrote that in a typical Nigerian mother voice ). I don’t even want to go into the kissing/not kissing debate, but all I’m going to say about is ‘kissing’ is probably going to take you deeper than you ever intended to go.
Some of these boundaries could include the following
- Reduce the number of hours spent together alone :
It is very important to have your alone time, but make sure when you’re both alone you’re not really alone. Your meetings should be in a public place where you could still have privacy. There may situations where being alone is inevitable, don’t let your guard down, you’re tempted according to your desires.
- Avoid unnecessary holding /fondling
There are some areas that are no go areas naturally. Some hugs can be very sexual, but if you must hug each other, keep it quick, side hugs are still the best 😂, kidding but not really. You know yourself, the greatest deception is self deceit. Your partner should also communicate any sexual struggles they may be having. You don’t want to be that person fueling their sexual desires.
- Guard your heart by guarding your conversations :
Avoid unnecessary lustful conversations that fuel your sexual desires. No, don’t talk about how it’s going to be on your wedding night lol. Don’t fall for it. If anyone is sending you nudes block them please, if it’s your partner then maybe you need to reevaluate that relationship.
- Pray for your relationship :
Making the decision to keep your relationship pure is not an easy one, and you cannot do it on your own. Pray your relationship, pray for strength to overcome temptations when they come, because they will definitely come. It takes more than just guides to pull you through. By strength shall no man prevail. It’s more than just a physical thing it’s more about your heart. What are your dominant thoughts? So you see, we need to Holy Spirit to help us, ask him to help you. His help is ever available, that’s why He was sent by the Father.
If you feel like you already messed up, you can make a decision today to start afresh. It’s never too late with God.
Never make the mistake of believing you’re too spiritual to fall for sexual sin. Don’t fall for it. Even the Bible gave the most unlikely reply as regards sexual sin; FLEE!!!
Related Bible Texts :
Recommended Book: When God writes your love story by Eric and Leslie Ludy – One of the best books I’ve read this year.
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This will be all for now guys. I hope you all enjoyed reading this post 😊.